Since childhood we men see our mothers and sisters working in the kitchen , doing the daily routine household chores of our home.
After we grow up , we behave in the same way and like the “King who enters in his house” (and does nothing) , we start commanding thing and start getting it done by the wife or the servant.
We only remember the ayat from the Qur’an “wherein men are allowed to have 4 wives…” but easily forget how the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) behaved when he was in his home.
So what did Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) do when he would spend time in his home. ?
Order everyone to clean the house ?? NO
Lie down on the bed and leave as it is ?? NO
Order nicest dishes to be prepared ?? NO
Eat and Sleep ?? NO
So what did Prophet do when he would spend time in his home. ?
The Apostle of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) occupied himself at his home like a common man.
As Aishah (ra) relates, he used to clean his clothes, milk the sheep and himself do his odd jobs. She also says that he would mend his clothes, repair his shoes and do similar other works.
When asked how the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) occupied himself at home, she replied, “He used to keep himself busy in household chores and went out when the time for prayer came.”
In another report related on her authority, she is reported to have said, “The Prophet of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) used to repair his shoes, mend his clothes and occupied himself at home even as any of you occupy yourself.”
Aishah (ra) relates, “Allahs Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) was very softhearted, the most kind of all. He smiled much.”
Anas (ra) says that “he had not seen a man who was more clement and nice to his household members than the Apostle of Allah.”
It is related on the authority of Aishah (ra) that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “The best of you is one who is most nice to his wife and children and I am the nicest among you.”